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Some Advice Please

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Hello,



I just received the following message and wondered if you have any advise for the lady in question:



''Can any ladies here give me some hints on how to deal with a bias male boss who favours a less competent male colleague and always make a joke out of me ?''



Kind regards,

Jo
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    I would advise that the lady starts taking records of examples where the less competent male colleague is given work and favoured over herself.  She also needs to take records of the bosses behaviour towards her.  This means that if she can face having a meeting with her boss she has "hard" examples of behaviour and doesn't say things like "I feel that..." .  That doesn't mean that what she feels isn't important but the boss should find it harder to brush off the conversation.  It would be especially good if the lady could highlight where there were witnesses to his behaviour since that will also strengthen her case.



    Can she find others who can support her both friends/colleagues within the company but also outside eg does the company have any sort of employee assistance scheme which provides independent advice and support?  If so, she should access it to see what help they can provide.  Searching the web for groups/ information may provide a useful source of information/assistance.



    While it might be hard to write down this information, it can help to bring things into the open - shedding some light into dark corners can be quite beneficial even though it might be painful.



    I hope that this helps.



    Kind regards



    Virginia
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    I would advise that the lady starts taking records of examples where the less competent male colleague is given work and favoured over herself.  She also needs to take records of the bosses behaviour towards her.  This means that if she can face having a meeting with her boss she has "hard" examples of behaviour and doesn't say things like "I feel that..." .  That doesn't mean that what she feels isn't important but the boss should find it harder to brush off the conversation.  It would be especially good if the lady could highlight where there were witnesses to his behaviour since that will also strengthen her case.



    Can she find others who can support her both friends/colleagues within the company but also outside eg does the company have any sort of employee assistance scheme which provides independent advice and support?  If so, she should access it to see what help they can provide.  Searching the web for groups/ information may provide a useful source of information/assistance.



    While it might be hard to write down this information, it can help to bring things into the open - shedding some light into dark corners can be quite beneficial even though it might be painful.



    I hope that this helps.



    Kind regards



    Virginia
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